I’m 61 and I’ve been dealing with that since I was a child. What I’ve learned is that I have to be making eye contact with people long enough to see them staring. There are number of other people who look at us that we don’t see looking at us. Keep walking with your head up high and with confidence in yourself. I know it’s easier said than done. You briefly look at people in passing and then move your gaze someplace else. People are going to stare whether I see them or not. I just keep it moving.
July 31
Dealing with stares from strangers can feel really uncomfortable, and you're definitely not alone in feeling that way. Many people with vitiligo navigate this exact challenge every day.
Here are some approaches that others have found helpful:
- Educate when you feel up to it — Some people find that briefly explaining Show Full Answer
Dealing with stares from strangers can feel really uncomfortable, and you're definitely not alone in feeling that way. Many people with vitiligo navigate this exact challenge every day.
Here are some approaches that others have found helpful:
- Educate when you feel up to it — Some people find that briefly explaining vitiligo (it's a pigmentation condition, not contagious) helps ease awkward moments. A MyVitiligoTeam member noted that explaining the basics often helps people accept you for who you are.
- Cover up when needed — Using clothing like patterned rash guards or leggings can be a practical option, especially in situations where you'd rather not field questions. One MyVitiligoTeam member even received compliments on their stylish sun-protective outfit!
- Give yourself permission to avoid draining situations — You don't owe anyone an explanation. Surrounding yourself with people who love and support you is completely valid.
- Work toward acceptance — Many people find that embracing their skin over time reduces the power those stares hold. As one MyVitiligoTeam member shared, it took years, but they now feel confident without concealing their skin at all. If the stares are affecting your mental well-being more deeply, talking to a mental health professional or your doctor is always a worthwhile step. Your skin doesn't define your worth — even if strangers sometimes make it feel that way.
July 28